Advice for Women

First dates are often nerve-wracking experiences. Women wonder if the men like them. Men wonder if they’ll get lucky after the date. Actually, both men and women are both nervous on first dates, so that’s one thing to keep in mind to keep from having an anxiety attack: chances are, your date is just as nervous as you are. Here are some first date tips for women that will ensure your date goes smoothly. 

#1 Relax any way you can before the big date. If this means spending an hour on a treadmill, taking some deep breaths or taking a long hot bath, do it. You want to be as calm and relaxed as possible when your date arrives.

#2 If you’re meeting your date somewhere, don’t be late. Being on time or a few minutes early will give you time to scope out the place, visit the ladies’ room to make sure your mascara isn’t running, and give you a little bit of time to give yourself a pep talk. When you’re running late, your adrenaline starts running, and that’s a bad way to start out a first date.

#3 Don’t talk too much. This is one of the biggest mistakes that women make when they’re on first dates. Do not spill all your secrets, your childhood issues, the problems you had in your last relationship.

#4 Remember this: people’s favorite subject is themselves. Instead of unloading all your baggage on your date, keep the conversation flowing by asking him questions.

#5 Ask him about his work, his hobbies and his political views. By finding out as much as you can about him (without making it seem like you’re conducting a job interview), you succeed in getting him to talk about his favorite subject (himself!) and you get to find out if you have anything in common.

#6 Never mention your ex-boyfriend during a first date. Even if you’ve just broken up with someone, the absolute last thing a guy wants to hear on his first date with you is your ex-boyfriend. If you were on a date with a guy and he wouldn’t shut up about his ex-girlfriend, would you find that attractive?

#7 Let him pay. Even if you asked him out first (which you really shouldn’t be doing), let the guy pay for the date. If you know your date is struggling financially, it might seem like a good idea to offer to pay for the date. In reality, this sets a bad precedent. Once you are in a serious relationship, it’s only fair that you split things 50/50. But until that day comes, play it safe and let him pay for your dinner.

#8 Never sleep with a man on a first date. No matter what a man claims, the plain truth is that men do not respect women who have sex right away. Plus, you don’t even know for sure if you want to continue dating him. Why risk it? Wait to see how it goes. Men enjoy the build-up that leads to sex. So keep it buttoned up for at least a little while.

While first dates are notoriously awkward, unsettling experiences, they’re necessary in order to begin a relationship. If a man you like has asked you out on a date, know that he has done so with a great deal of thought and trepidation. What if you’d turned him down? Don’t make him sorry that you didn’t. Be the wonderful, beautiful, sincere, genuine girl that you are and make that first date count.

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