10 Signs It’s Time to Dump Him
Breaking up with a boyfriend is a hard decision to make, especially if you’ve been together for a long time. It’s not a decision to be taken lightly. On the other hand, it’s not a decision to put off, either. The longer you wait to break up, the more the both of you will suffer. If you’re thinking about dumping your boyfriend, here are some good reasons to do so:
1. Break up with him If he makes you feel bad about yourself. Does he put you down, humiliate you, upset you to the point where you’re losing your self-esteem? It’s time to break up with him. He’s bad for your well-being.
2. Does he have an ex who’s making your life a living hell? Ex-girlfriends and ex-wives often make their unhappiness known by taking it out on their exes and their new loves. If your boyfriend has an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife who refuses to let go (and your boyfriend doesn’t do much to help) then it’s time to dump him, because it will only get worse.
3. Is he abusive? Any type of physical, mental or emotional abuse must be kicked to the curb right away. It is never OK to be abusive, ever. If you think your boyfriend might be abusing you, then you are probably right. It’s time to break up with him.
4. Does he have an addiction? Whether your boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling or pornography, it’s not your job to save him. Addicts tend to bring their loved ones into their crazy, hellish lives. Do yourself a favor and break up with the addict until he gets some help.
5. Break up with him if he’s broke. This is a point of controversy: after all, we should stand by our man, right? Not if he’s relying on you to support him. If he doesn’t have a job, money, or inclination to get either one, then it’s time to break up with him.
6. If he cheats on you, break up with him. This is especially true if it’s early in the relationship. There’s no excuse for cheating, and if he cheats once, he’ll do it again. Cheating while dating and cheating while married are two whole different ball games. If you’re with a cheater and you’re not married and have no children, there’s no reason to try to “work it out.”
7. If his parents and his friends don’t like you, and he doesn’t stick up for you, break up with him. You can’t fight the whole world, especially if your boyfriend is not on your side.
8. Dump him if he’d rather play video games all day than spend time with you. Every man needs alone time. But if you realize he spends more time online than he does with you, then you can guess where his priorities are.
9. If he’s still in love with his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, break up with him. You can’t compete with the ex he’s still smitten with. And you shouldn’t come second to any woman, period.
10. If he doesn’t want children, and you want kids some day, break up with him. You’re wasting valuable time with a person who doesn’t want the same things in life as you do.
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