Ask Eve: Does He Like Me?
Dear Eve,
I go to a community college in my hometown and I really like a guy in one of my classes there. It’s only on Saturdays,so I only get to see him then (except for one week, when I kept seeing him at a snack machine there). I’m 18 and he’s 21. Sometimes, I see him looking at me at the corner of his eye. Every time someone is talking to the teacher during class, he looks at them, then at me. ALWAYS! I don’t know if he sees me looking at me or not during those times. Also,the Saturday before last Saturday, he looked at me a LOT! More than usual. I don’t know if it’s because of the bottom layers of my hair were dry from straightening it all that week or not. Just so you know, he sits on the last row on the left side of the room and I sit on the row right next to the last row on the right side of the room. We swapped numbers last Saturday, but he has yet to respond back to the text I sent him asking him to take me to my prom (I finished high school early back in December and can still go to the prom at my high school). So does he like me?
Dear Wondering,
Oh, no! You asked HIM to the prom? This is ALWAYS a bad idea! Of course he likes you. I repeat: if he stared at you during class and asked you for your number, OF COURSE HE LIKES YOU. But by the time you read this, it may have turned into “Of course he liked you.” If you had dropped some well-placed hints, I think that he would have asked you out first.
(Who asked for whose number first? Please tell me you didn’t ask for his number before he asked you for yours.)
It is always a bad idea to ask men out. It deprives them of their hunting instinct. Men like to chase women. If women fall over, what’s the point for the man? Why should the man have to do anything?
Asking a man out first sets a dangerous precedent, even if the man and woman end up getting together. It encourages laziness from the man.
Listen: Take this experience for what it’s worth. Please know that many a young lady failed to seal the deal with a man because she jumped the gun and moved too fast. No matter what television would like to have us believe, it’s the man’s job to make the first move and that’s that.
Sincerely,
Eve
Tags: Advice for Women
